Dear Booty : Am i an occasional booty call, potential girlfriend, or is he just totally playing games?

Dear Booty

i met this guy in one of my classes at college and we started talking, hanging out…and we really hit it off. we’ve talked almost everyday for the last four months, and he starts the majority of the conversations and we hang out twice a week or so. we always have a good time, joke around a lot, flirt, and there’s just a lot of chemistry. about a month before we met, he and his gf of 2 1/2 years broke up (she broke up with him) and he decided that he wanted to live the single life and he told me that he wasnt looking for a relationship, which was fine for the time, cuz even tho i liked him and i was pretty sure he liked me, i respected/understood his need to be on his own for awhile. he then started trying really hard to get to know my best friend and i was introduced to his closest friends who always laugh and make silly faces and tease me whenever i see them. about two months in, we pregamed before a football game together and later that night as we were sobering up, randomly decided to sleep together. it just happened somehow. (we had already done the “no sex sleepover” before this) it was really good and not at all awkward after and he didnt disappear on me, but started talking to me even more. two weeks after we slept together, he got more drunk than i hav ever seen him and he hooked up with some other girl almost right in front of me and the girls friend kicked me and my friends out of his room so he could have “privacy.” i cried on the walk home. the next day, he couldnt remember if he slept with her or not, but. he apologized. over christmas break, he told me about everything he did, and even told me when he hung out with a girl and followed up with a reassurance that “nothing went down in case i was wondering.” when we got back to school, the first weekend, he partied and got a hickey but couldnt remember how/when. he asked my friend if i was mad at him about it. (but i hadnt even seen it and he felt giulty about getting it). the next night i went out, and ended up making out with some random..it wasnt a big deal..but my friend told the guy i like about it and then things got awkward. he was getting annoyed with me about things he has done too? he then told me that he liked having a gf and was open to the possibility after previously saying he wasnt. then things suddenly went sort of back to normal…he started talking to me a lot again and making plans. then last night he calls and asks to chill at like 3 in the morning. i was up so, why not. he asked if he could crash at my place cuz his buddies had taken over his. when he showed up he started making moves on me and we ended up sleeping together again..the first time since before (two months ago). he told me he never made moves on me sober because im “that really nice girl and he is afraid of doing something to piss me off.” he started to say “i love you” but paused when he realized exactly what he was saying, plus he was drunk so i didnt really take it too seriously. he stayed all night.. i dont know what his game is. obviously we’re more than friends, but we arent in a relationship, even tho it sometimes feels like it, and he keeps contradicting himself and sometimes i feel like im just being played, intentional or not.

Booty Says

You’re in college?????? Could’ve fooled me! Your major isn’t common senseology! This guy’s got drunk multipe times and hooked up with multiple women in a short span and YOU CAN’T figure it out? Come on college genius, it’s all there in front of you. Figure it out.

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